Valentine For the Hubby

15 02 2018

I got his wrapped up about an hour before he got home. I wish I’d had time to make a box or bag for him, but I didn’t.

Here’s what you need to know about the love of my life.

He comes across as intimidating. I have NO idea why, but he does until you take the time to get to know my quiet wonderful man.

Something else you need to know. I think he likes it and kind of plays on it sometimes, especially as our kids have gotten old enough to date.

He also likes to laugh.

So the gifts were made with theses things in mind. And they were well received ๐Ÿ™‚

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thanks for stopping by!

xoxo

 

Links to files used in the projects

Corset, Pattern1, Pattern 2, I Don’t Like Morning People

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Little Cousinsโ€™ Valentine Party

11 02 2018

I’ve been sitting on this for a bit! Now that everyone has their things, I can share it ๐Ÿ˜€

The younger cousins got together and had their own Valentine’s Day party this weekend. They colored Valentines I cut out on my Cameo, did a craft, had a treat then played.

But I played well before they did when I put together matching shirts for the kids.

I like how they turned out and the kids were cute in them.

The white onsies are for the girls and the red shirts are for the boys.

Thanks for looking!





And She Loved A Little Boy Very, Very Much…

3 02 2018

Tomorrow is our foster son’s last visit with his bio mom.

Last week we had court. A judge sat behind his bench waiting to decide the fate of three families, two sets of parents, and one little boy.

What had been anticipated to be a 1-2 day trial turned into a court session that ran over an hour behind then only lasted 30 minutes.

We lived miracles last week.

The day before court we had mediation with bio mom. She came into the meeting contesting the Termination of Parental Rights (TPR). But after speaking with us and I’m sure many sleepless nights considering her options, in the end, she decided to consent to the termination of her rights and agree to the adoption of her precious little boy.

I’m still unsure how to process that scene. We sat across the table and watched as the court document was signed. I still have trouble wrapping my head around the concept that a SIGNATURE is all it takes to sever those ties. It looks so simple, but was oh so amazingly swift and final.

I hugged her and thanked her. I acknowledged her sacrifice. I’ve learned that love comes in so many ways. She showed an act of love I’m not capable of.

We got word earlier that morning that bio dad’s attorney was asking for a continuance. Someone else hadn’t done their job correctly. So we expected the next morning to bring consent and TPR for bio mom and a continuance for bio dad.

While we waited. I sat with my son’s bio mom. She sat alone on one of the hardest days of her life and I couldn’t ignore that. Maybe I was the last person she wanted to see or talk to. I don’t know. But I asked questions about the children we share. How they got their names. Who they take after. What kinds of things she was going to do with the baby on his last few visits. Our parent aide has agreed to record her playing with the baby and sending me the videos so I can hold on to them for my children.

That hour they ran behind? Bio dad’s guardian ad litem and the court worked some things out and the GAL consented on bio dad’s behalf. I was surprised, too, when bio dad’s sister told me they were happy with how things were working out. She hugged me after court was done. I couldn’t believe we had the support from both sides of the family.

In the end, I couldn’t comprehend – I still can’t – the enormity of her loss. To gain my son, another mother LOST hers. But going through this journey with her for almost two years, the Lord has provided many opportunities for me to understand, to a small degree, the heart crushing cost to one mother so another could raise the child they both loved.

I wanted something special for this last visit. I used his footprints for this card andย  included the actual footprints with it so she has those too.

It’s so incredibly inadequate, but it’s all I have.





MRI Results Are In

5 12 2017

I called for the results. I was too nervous to wait much longer. And today was the day the radiology nurse suggested I call if I hadn’t heard anything. So really, I did a pretty good job waiting ๐Ÿ™‚

So, the results: The MRI is stable. No change. We still have the same abnormalities we did last year. She did say that the regression we saw could be indicative of autism and suggested we have him evaluated at one of the other clinics there.

A couple of things to note:

First – never ONCE did I think our results would be worse than before. It never crossed my mind. If you read the first blog post about this scan, I was actually a little concerned the opposite would be true. I’m SO grateful that this possibility was not the outcome. I never would have seen it coming.

Second – little man has been on autism watch for the last 6 months or so. So this wasn’t a surprise. We don’t have a name for what’s going on with him, but we have symptoms, and we’ve been treating those almost since the beginning.

Third – our pediatrician and I have already been talking about taking little man and his 6yo brother to the genetics clinic to see if they can find some answers for both boys. I would LOVE to see a brain scan of the 6yo to see if it looks anything like his little brother’s, but they don’t let parents request those ๐Ÿ˜‰

So, no miracle brain mending yet, but that’s okay. I’m more at peace with this outcome than either of the other two. I think part of that is just the comfort of knowing that what we’re dealing with hasn’t really changed. And although we don’t know what we’re dealing with exactly, we know the symptoms and we have the services in place to deal with those.

Thanks for coming along on this crazy ride with us.

xoxo





Can We Put that Miracle on Hold?

1 12 2017

Im sitting in the MRI waiting room.

My son is sedated and having his brain scanned. We’re looking for more answers or clarification of information we already have.

I’m trying not to stress about the results of my foster son’s second MRI.

But not for the reasons you might think.

Our foster son’s adoption case hinges heavily on the previous MRI which showed some abnormalities.

What if the scan comes back normal? This could potentially give the parent’s attorney a little more ammunition to dissuade the judge from granting the termination of parental rights when he hears the case at the end of January.

A normal MRI also leaves us with more questions. It actually takes away possible answers. I mean, we kind of have an explanation for his multiple delays. We’re just not sure how/if it applies yet. We’re still in the information gathering period.

But something is going on with my son. The neurologist listed his diagnosis as global delays. Not only do we have delays – some profound – we’ve seen regression in some areas as well this year.

I’m advocating my butt off for him trying to get him seen so we can unravel what’s going on. Then I can make sure we’re meeting all of his needs correctly. The abnormal MRI from last year can be a significant puzzle piece.

So I’m conflicted.

I would love to see a miracle. But I dread it a little at the same time. And it stinks that I’m sitting here in an empty waiting room worried about seeing a miracle. Who does that?

But I believe in a God of miracles. So I’m also working on moving the fear out and making room for the faith. Faith that whatever happens, it’s in His hands.

No matter the results, we’ll navigate them and I’ll continue to advocate for my son.





Family Court Business

28 11 2017

Tomorrow morning we have family court. We’re hoping it’s the last one before the TPR (termination of parental rights) trial at the end of January.

As always, a mountain of butterflies are swirling in my tummy. I hate court dates. It’s not likely that anything will change, but it’s so hard to predict a broken system.

Wish us luck!





Crafting and Speech Therapy

2 11 2017

My littlest kiddo is developmentally delayed. One of the delays is speech. The evaluation report used big scary words like “severe” and “profound deficits” in describing his delay.

At about 16 months old, his skill set was equivalent to that of a 3-6 month old.

So we’ve been doing speech therapy. He’s making progress even though it’s kind of slow going, but we have great people with great ideas and experience to back him up ๐Ÿ™‚

We’ve introduced signs, and he’s starting to get the hang of things now that he’s realized that communication makes his life better ๐Ÿ™‚

In addition to signs, we have pictures. The idea behind these is that he exchanges the pictures of the things he wants for the actual things he wants.

The therapist had a good system that worked for her when she’s working with kids, but it wasn’t as quick and easy as my situation needed. I needed something easy to get to and easily portable.

This is what I came up with ๐Ÿ™‚

I have things he knows the signs for, as well as words we’re starting to work on. I’ve also included family members’ pictures so we can add signs for their names, too.

I used my Silhouette program and machine to size and cut the pictures then laminated them. Lastly, I punched a hole in the corners and slid them on a binder ring. This ring is then attached to my belt loop. Easy to carry, always at our fingertips and I can continue to add pictures as necessary.

My hope is eventually, he’ll be speaking verbally. If he can’t, signs are good, too. The pictures are a good starting place for both and a good back up for him.

Thanks for stopping by!

Xoxo